Therapist advises how to move forward after a breakup

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Moving forward isn't easy after a breakup.

Therapist Leah Benson, author of the book "Emotional Utopia," said uncoupling is almost never mutual.

"One person or the other feels wronged," Benson told FOX 13.

She said sometimes couples just grow apart.

"There were things that the other person expected or that you expected that just don't work now," she said.

But there are ways to manage the breakup civilly. If you are initiating the separation, Benson said, "You want to have empathy for their experience and own your own part of the breakup."

Benson said those on the receiving end of the breakup "really want to let them know how hurt they are."

Both sides need to be adult about it.  

"Taking the high road and avoiding blame, taking responsibility and owning your part of this breakup whether you want it or not," Benson advised.